Dear Friend:
Glad you're back -- because I've got even MORE fight myths for you. No.. I'm not obsessed with myths, but this is a necessary part of "stripping you down to build you back up".
To clarify my point, let me tell you a little story.
When the Americans took over the building of the Panama Canal from the French, they did something that shocked many people around the world -- they STOPPED all construction.
That's right. Because people who were working the canal were dying by the thousands from Malaria. So the U.S. first cleared the jungle, set up clean and comfortable worker housing, and made every effort to first clear away the mosquitoes. Only after that was acheived did the Americans start work on the canal.
It's the same here. I'm simply clearing the jungle and tiding up some things so that we can start teaching you how to fight and win with a clean slate.
So here we go... onto Fight Myth #10:
You get the picture. This 14% represents boys who admitted being a victim.
Bullies get much satisfaction by hurting and humiliating people who don’t accept their dominance. They WILL fight when challenged – so giving someone advice to “stand up to a bully” will almost certainly mean a physical fight. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stand up to a bully, but it’s good to know what you’re in for. In other words – never bluff with a bully. If you stand up, you better be ready to fight. And bullies usually have some fight experience.
- The Bully – We covered this a bit already, but his primary motivation is to dominate you and prove that he’s the “top-dog”. In other words, bullies pick fights to either protect or improve their “perceived” social standing. Submitting to a bully’s wishes can get you out of a fight, but if you’re in a position where you need to demonstrate your own authority (a cop, a firefighter, a soldier leading men in combat, etc), simply submitting to a bully may not be a good option for you.
- The Predator – This is someone who’s not necessarily looking for a fight, he’s looking for something you’ve got. You have money... a car... a woman... something... and he wants it. Or perhaps you’re caught up in the random violence of a gang “initiation”. Stats show that once you’re targeted by this guy, you won’t be able to “reason” your way out of a fight. You’ve got two choices: 1.) give him what he wants, or... 2.) fight. If it’s your wallet, throw it one way and run the other. If it’s your wife or girlfriend he wants... well... I suspect you’ll want to fight. And I’ll cover some specifics on that topic in a bit. The predator is the least likely to be drawn into “diplomacy”.
- The “Emotionally Hijacked” – Also known as a “badger”. This is the guy who explodes in anger because you cut him off in traffic... dinged his car... slighted him in front of his girlfriend... or told him he couldn’t drink your last beer. It’s likely that more than one person has suggested that he take on “anger management” counseling (which he got angry about), as his behavior often runs to extremes. The good news is that the badger is one character who responds well to specific “reasoning” methods. I cover those techniques in great detail in this book.
The technical term for this is “dilution of responsibility”, but I think they should change that name to something less technical like: “I thought someone else would take care of it”.
Now, on the other hand, if you have just ONE friend and no crowd of bystanders, you actually may get some help. But the facts have shown over and over that individuals inside a crowd are less likely to act.
A “gang” mentality is different. They will back each other up because it’s part of their “job”.
Look at him directly. Watch him. Let him know you’re aware of his presence. Once a predator suspects you know his real intentions, it strips away much of the motivation to attack since the element of surprise has been taken away – and surprise is one of the predator’s most powerful tools. He knows he can’t surprise you, and now you’re perceived as less of an easy mark.
Of course eyeballing a bully will have the opposite effect and will probably result in the “what are YOU looking at?” response. So this tactic is to be used when you suspect a predator.
- Deterrence – This is their main purpose. They patrol the streets and convince less-than-stellar citizens that criminal activity is a bad idea -- not because it’s wrong, but because they might get caught. Deterrence depends on people’s reluctance to take a chance. It’s like the store owner (and this is a true story) who kept getting robbed and ripped off, so he placed an obvious cardboard cutout of police officer in a highly visible part of his store. It completely eliminated the robberies and dramatically reduced shoplifting. It worked not because anyone was afraid of a cardboard cutout, but because it placed a seed of doubt in the mind of the potential criminal.
- Mop up – Okay... this sounds lousy, but much of a cop’s time is spent traveling to crime scenes, talking with victims, writing up reports and “mopping up” the blood. Now this has almost nothing to do with preventing crimes, except for the fact that good police work can eventually lead to getting specific criminals off the streets.
- Apprehension – Here’s where cops earn their paycheck. It takes guts to put your ass on the line and hunt down a dangerous criminal. Most of us avoid this kind of confrontation, but cops purposely put themselves into it. In reality the mop-up and apprehension are both just another form of deterrence. The idea that a cop will investigate and try to catch them is a powerful reason many people don’t get involved in crime.
Most people are shocked to discover that the police do not have the ability (nor the legal obligation) to protect individuals. Existing by the simpleton motto of “let the cops handle it” is a risky way to live. The harsh reality is that YOU are responsible for your own protection -- and for that of your loved ones – not the cops.
Well, the same is true with fighting techniques. You’re better off knowing more than less, as it gives you the flexibility of using multiple methods to attack specific targets. Remember... one of the most crucial keys to fighting and winning is proper target acquisition. In other words, you’ll be far more effective with a crudely executed, but accurate, kick to your opponent’s nut-sack than you’d be with a really pretty roundhouse kick that missed the mark.
Okay... maybe it sounds like I’m contradicting myself, but I’m not. Stay with me here.
Because the reason that many “store front” martial artists and “dojo educated” fighters LOSE against an experienced street fighter is that, in the heat of battle, they are trying to use and remember specific MOVES (typically complex fine motor skill techniques) rather than targeting. They should be viewing their opponent as a group of vulnerable targets, and then take advantage of the most exposed targets as quickly as possible by any means necessary (something called Target Awareness).
Many make the huge mistake of thinking about technique before target. They display their “swooning crane” technique and a couple seconds later, the experienced streetfighter has them demonstrating the “unconscious crane” technique.
On the other hand, a completely inexperienced fighter will typically have 1 or 2 moves. They are:
- Right hand “haymaker”
- Left hand “haymaker”
C’mon... you can do better than that. In fact, I’ve got over 70 titles that’ll quickly show you tons of moves and sneaky “dirty trick” attacks. Your adversary won’t know what hit him.
Because, after countless interviews with some of the most dangerous fighters on the planet, I discovered that ALL these fighters were very quick to see open targets, (or to make them open), then utilize any one of an arsenal of techniques to attack those open targets. Having more fighting tools simply allows a fighter to more quickly exploit “open” targets.
So it comes down to this.
You must have more than 1-2 techniques. You want at least a few dozen ways to attack your adversary’s targets...
You need to have at least a handful of techniques for each of the “four ranges” of fighting, including:
- Long Range – pick up on 3 good long kicks. Like I said, we’ve got an arsenal of kicks to choose from – use the ones that fits you best.
- Medium range – choose 3 good punches and short kicks and learn the ear slap, eye jab, and the palm in the face. These simple techniques can (and often do) end the fight in a couple of seconds, but you should never count on it. For instance, I’ve personally seen a fight where the guys’ eyeball was hanging from his head and he still kept fighting. Drugs, alcohol, and just plain insanity can mean that you’ll have to keep going to end it. (This brings up another important point... you NEVER want to stand back and “evaluate” how the fight’s going).
- Close Range – This is where you’ll be able to end it. There are a lot of vicious and devastating techniques I can show you in this range, including specialized knees shots, wicked elbow strikes, and fight-ending headbutts. Experienced fighters typically use special tactics to get in close, and then use one of these brutal techniques to end it. It’s lights out, game over.
- Grappling – Yes, I said that research shows that most fights don’t go to the ground unless you’re in a “contain, control, comply” mode. But it does happen, so you need to have some aces up your sleeve. We’ve got a number of excellent ground fighting dvds.
Here’s the scoop. They’ve offered a few military guys some free training in their system. That’s it. Free seminars or workshops to military personnel is almost always a marketing ploy and a “resume building” exercise. They can now turn around and advertise that their system is used by “military experts”. Keep your eyes open for this nonsense. Just because someone trained military people does NOT make it special.
Another thing, most soldiers will admit that much of the hand to hand stuff is absolutely worthless to them because 100% of their job is to fight at a distance using hi-tech weaponry -- NOT hand-to-hand systems.
This is exactly why I’ve personally sought out special military units that indeed depend heavily on hand-to-hand fighting.
And believe me, these guys exist. I even got some of them to talk. They sneak around behind enemy lines quietly “taking care of business” without firing weapons and drawing a bunch of attention to themselves. Real live bad-asses that’d make Rambo look like a pussy.
I’d put my money on the ex-con. Because as brutal as it may appear, an MMA fight really IS different than a street fight.
First, a pay-per-view “cage” fight (also called a mixed-martial-arts or MMA fight) is about making money for the promoters. They can’t allow every fight to be over within 3-8 seconds. They’d lose their audience -- and advertisers -- fast. So, in an MMA fight there’s no quick “fight ending” moves allowed -- which is what a street fight is ALL about.
Also, promoters have got to take some effort to protect the fighters. They wouldn’t be “sanctioned” for long with a continuous stream of dead bodies being hauled out of the ring.
So, here’s 16 moves that are outlawed in most sanctioned MMA fights -- but used in most street fights:
- Eye gouging.
- Groin strikes (the ever popular “sack-attack”)
- Throat strikes (which can easily be lethal).
- Grabbing the trachea
- Biting (alright... Tyson DID try this once).
- Clawing, twisting, or pinching the flesh.
- Stomping, kneeing or kicking a grounded opponent.
- Strikes to spine or back of head (also easily lethal).
- Striking downward, using the point of the elbow.
- Head butt (think of a “bowling ball in the face”).
- Hair pulling.
- Kicking the kidney with the heel.
- Grabbing the clavicle.
- Small joint manipulations (such as fingers).
- Weapons and improvised weapons.
- Multiple attackers (except in WWF).
“I dislike death; however there are some things I dislike more than death. Therefore, there are times when I will not avoid danger.”
–Mencius
Okay, like I said, maybe there are some exceptions to this in “World Wrestling” situations. I mean they DO use folding chairs and multiple attackers while the ref “isn’t looking”.
But seriously... what wins a “match-fight” is strength, size, speed, endurance, and skill. In “personal combat” or street fighting, it’s the use of deception, distraction, disruption and destruction (the four Ds) that wins.
Think about this. When Mike Tyson went to prison – they separated him from the general prison population for his own protection. Why? I mean bad-ass Mike Tyson was the most feared Heavy Weight boxer at the time – what did he have to worry about? Well, even Tyson knew that the fight rules in prison were different than in the ring. In fact, just like on the streets, there are NO rules. Anything goes, and you’ve got to be resourceful to survive.
Now granted, some skinny little con would have little chance at beating Tyson in the ring under existing boxing rules. But a sport fighter who doesn’t understand the big “Four Ds” is at a serious disadvantage in any street fight. This is why size, strength, and endurance are not huge factors in a street fight – it’s about your skills in the Four Ds.
Sure feels good to get some of that off my chest.
In my next installment I won't be covering anything more about myths -- but instead I’ll get into some real meat and potatoes on what WINS a street fight.
Keep your eyes open for that – it’ll be coming your way soon. See you then.
Til next time...
Bob Pierce
Head Honcho, TRS/FightFast
“To be prepared for war is one of the most effectual means of preserving peace.”
— George Washington
P.S. If you carry hand-gun, chances are you don’t know how to use your gun properly in a real life-or-death confrontation.
In fact, if you're spending all your training time at the range shooting paper targets then you're overlooking one of the most crucial secrets to winning an actual armed conflict. That's why this message is so important to you.